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Okay, so here’s the situation I sochofied… “My boyfriend and I got together six months back and since one month now, his ex-girlfriend has been trying to get him back. I know her personally and I got hint of her intentions, because out of aggravation, yesterday she called me up and told me that I was a boyfriend stealer…

Oh by the way, he dumped her because she was cheating on him with another guy…

My problem now is, he tells me over and over again that he has no feelings for her anymore, but he does not mind her calling him on his mobile, her sms(s) to him and her asking him to meet her to help her for some reason or other…Sometimes she is not well, some times she has none to drop her to some place, some times this sometimes that…. I don’t know what to do to make me feel secure and what I should do about his ex ='((((.”

Now when I can make a plot so much full of extreme emotions of love, breakup, jealousy, cheating, honesty…, I had to be my own agony aunt(s) and I really feel I knew how much I can think only when I had no option but to think and think and think and visualize…Oh yes I am very good in visualizing things and I can see everything I think and also I visualize things which others tell me…!Okay, now coming back to the topic, how can I have different solutions /advises for my own problem…what I thought best at this moment was…why not put myself in thinking cap of different people…including my own 😉 (Now you believe I can think ;)) and think about this serious issue…!

To start, with angel on my shoulder, I though from a very soft emotional and positive perspective and what came to my mind was a quote from Richard Bach …“If you love something, set it free, if it comes back to you, it’s yours. If it doesn’t, it never was”. We do not possess anything in this world, least of all other people. We only imagine that we do. Our friends, our lovers, our spouses, even our children are not ours; they belong only to themselves. Possessive and controlling friendships and relationships can be as harmful as neglect. Now if I am not the girl, he has chosen just to get over his ex…, is it really worth fighting…? May be let him go and let him sort his head out. If he comes back it was meant to be…!

Whilst ,what I wrote above, I was simultaneously having contradictory thoughts(this time with devil on my shoulder :-x)and I thought if every thing has to happen as it is meant to be, especially in such a situation which can be really adverse to my expectations, I will be loser and nothing else…Still if the situation arises that if I decided to set my partner free or he was already free 😉 and somehow that phase was unbearable and painful I would like to quote,” If you love something set it free, if it comes back it’s yours, if it doesn’t, break it’s legs and it’ll never run away again!” 😛 :D…and “I will go up to her and slap her and tell her to p**s off”. At least I will be happy that I vented out!

Now, what about a direct ‘one to one’ approach…you now see, how much these ‘one to one’ meetings are influencing me… :P…Okay, she’s a b*tch. And my boyfriend doesn’t sound really smart either. I have to tell him to do things (don’t meet her; don’t do this, don’t do that…). If he cared he would do it without you telling him to. I will talk to him and tell him if he still has feelings for her, he should tell me now because I don’t want to be treated like dirt. And if he chooses her over me, leave him. Here I am a girl who does not like to be one of those girls who says “But I love him…” I am just going to hurt myself like that”. I would tell him that until he gets his story straight, and until he decides who he wants to be with, it’s over!

Last but not the least…a KISS (Keep It Simple Stupid) solution from a very cool angle… “Ignore her”. I have him and not her – that infuriates her – that’s enough revenge in itself…I should not stress and concentrate on strengthening my relationship with him and have good good time

All thought and said…the reality is “The mystery of love is greater than the mystery of death.” and if it has to happen it will and it’s always “Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.”